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Are you going through a career, relationship or lifestyle transition?
Do you feel stuck, frustrated and don't know what to do next?
Are you looking for ways to help you develop yourself personally to achieve your goals?
Going through life transitions can feel like climbing a mountain with rocky paths, confusing directions, and unclear outcomes.
In the face of uncertainty, what can we rely on? Who can we trust? How can we make confident life decisions? Where do we turn to explore our options, better understand ourselves and create the best life we can?
Deep inside each of us, we possess an unlimited supply of inner strength and expansive wisdom. That inner wisdom is like our own “inner GPS” guiding each of us in the direction we are meant to go, if we can simply allow ourselves to listen to and trust it. That powerful, all knowing, inner wisdom is there in all of us, lying dormant until we are ready to surrender all other influences, tune inward and trust.
Learning how to access and tap that ultimate place of strength, energy, vitality and personal unstoppable power and so much more is the essence of Way to Goal! which offers effective tools, training, personal coaching and support to help people take authentic, inspired action that is in alignment with their true spirit.
These skills and others can be learned:
- Build your own self-confidence
- Discover and maintain personal balance
- Break habits of thinking and behavior that fail to serve you
- Relax and re-energize
- Gain increased clarity about your life purpose and direction
- Make effective decisions
- Confidently communicate your genuine needs and desires
- Empower yourself to take the “right” action
- Set and achieve personal goals that are aligned with your true self
Way to Goal! offers workshops, tools and coaching to help you de-stress and find your personal balance, build your self-confidence and personal power, gain better clarity around your choices and life direction.
 Doreen Amatelli, MBA, PCC, NLP is a certified professional life coach. Her experience coaching many clients through significant life transitions such as career, relationships, and lifestyle, as well as her own personal and professional transitions provide a strong foundation for an effective coaching experience where clients can learn to manage their transitions better and maybe even flourish during those changes.
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By Doreen Amatelli on
Friday, April 29, 2011
 Making any major change in life can be daunting. Career shifts, relationship changes, lifestyle transitions, and overcoming personal development obstacles can feel quite overwhelming and scary. The frustration, the lack of clarity, the lack of confidence can be great. Fear of making the wrong decision can stop you in your tracks. Not knowing where you are going in the future can lead you to make choices that fail to serve you. Feeling like there are no right decisions, you can remain stuck going over and over the same issues in your mind with no resolution. A confused mind always says no.
If only you had a clear path that you could feel confident is the best for you. Someone or something that you could trust and rely on to be sure you are making the “right” decisions. You can get in your own way without realizing it. The current situation, past history or other people get the blame or credit for the current circumstances. What you may crave is confidence, trust, clarity and support. Feeling powerless to change in the face of change appears real and maybe insurmountable especially without the necessary compassionate support of others.
What is real and can be relied upon is the unlimited inner strength and wisdom we all possess deep inside each of us. That inner wisdom is the non-judgmental part of use that acts like our own “inner GPS” guiding us in the direction each of us is meant to go, if we can allow ourselves to listen to and trust it. That powerful, all knowing, inner wisdom is there in all of us, lying dormant until we are ready to surrender all other influences, tune inward and trust.
Once we listen we may feel a glimpse of clarity or ease. And it is up to us to decide if we want to take action in the direction our inner wisdom is guiding us. Choosing not to listen means we don’t understand or trust that “inner GPS” then we may play and experiment a bit before we can put our full faith in it. Maybe we’ll run it by others close to us to see what they think. Maybe we’ll take a few steps in the direction we are being guided carefully assessing at each moment if it’s in line with what we want. Maybe we start with some smaller goal or challenge and let our inner GPS guide us toward a path. There is no fail proof way other than to experiment.
When making a big life decision, it’s only when we are in full alignment with our values, our beliefs and inner spirit that we can truly know we are making the right decision for us. And that takes conscious effort to explore ourselves, our values, beliefs, abilities, identities and spirit. That doesn’t mean we can’t make good decisions otherwise. It just means that listening inwardly can give us a greater sense of confidence in situations where we feel the most uneasy or conflicted.
Doreen Amatelli, MBA, PCC, NLP is a certified professional life coach and workshop/seminar leader specializing in personal growth and self-development as the basis for helping people achieve their goals. She is a compassionate and intuitive listener and speaker who identifies practical yet creative options for helping people navigate through major life transitions. Through her workshops, seminars, and coaching she teaches individuals and audiences tools, techniques and concepts to overcome their roadblocks, opening a clear path to achieving their goals. Copyright 2011 Doreen Amatelli. All Rights Reserved
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By Doreen Amatelli on
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
 Recently I was reminded of a hike that a former boss took her team on as a “team-building event” near the Delaware Water Gap between NJ and PA several years ago. Although I lived my entire life in NJ, I had never visited this picturesque area along the Delaware River that separates Pennsylvania and New Jersey. My boss was a woman of very few words, but that day a lot was communicated. As the team hiked up the path we joked with each other while complaining about how “out of shape” we all were.
At the top, we ate our lunches on a large rocky cliff that overlooked the Gap. It was a breathtaking view! We couldn’t believe that most of us had lived within a few hours of this area but hadn’t visited until that day. As we ate our lunches, our boss explained that our jobs were changing from focusing on the day-to-day details (e.g. the hike up the path) to the “big picture” (e.g. the scenic view).
About two months later, a layoff was announced. My boss had the unfortunate responsibility to lay off 50% of her team. I was so wrapped up in the fear of losing my job that I completely ignored what my boss must have been going through, yet never showed. Fortunately I wasn’t laid off but several of my colleagues were. A few years later, after I had changed jobs, I heard that my former boss, Margaret, had taken an early retirement and enrolled in school to learn landscape architecture (a completely different field from IT marketing). Within a year I learned that she had died of ovarian cancer.
I didn’t know it then, but my boss and that beautiful hike made a lasting impression on me. What was my boss really trying to tell us that day? Was she aware of the impending layoff? Did she really want to change careers herself? Did she know that her life would be shortened?
· This week, spend a few moments in the shower or on your way to/from work thinking about the “big picture” of your life including your current work, family, personal, social, health, etc. From this perspective ask yourself… What is breathtaking in my life? What am I truly grateful for?
· Next, ask yourself... Is my career moving in the direction I want? Is my personal life in alignment with my desires? What activities am I doing on a day-to-day basis that are leading me where I want to go?
I’ll never forget Margaret or the amazing impact she continues to have on my life... hopefully, on yours as well.
“This is your life, NOT a dress rehearsal!” (a cliché, but still true)
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By Doreen Amatelli on
Sunday, January 25, 2009
Have you ever expected an upcoming event to be wonderful only to have it turn out to be disappointing, or worse? Conversely, have you ever feared or stressed about a future event only to find out that it wasn’t as bad as you had once imagined? Think about it.
Recently I had an opportunity to visit some places I had gone to on vacation when I was a child, like Hershey Park, PA. I have childhood memories of a magical place with a huge, picturesque amusement park, street lights shaped like Hershey Kisses that stood high above the ground, and key chains and other souvenirs that smelled like chocolate heaven.
I went back with the hopes of offering a similar experience to my family, and I experienced something quite different. It was a noisy amusement park with less of a picturesque backdrop and a strong commercial atmosphere where souvenirs of every shape, size and variety of Hershey’s chocolate imaginable are found on an entire floor of Hershey’s Chocolate World. I found it interesting that despite my disappointment, my family and I had a wonderful time. Why were my experiences so different? What had changed?
The difference is in our perspectives or perceptions. What is real for children seems imagined to adults. Things that appear to be huge at one time can turn out to seem so small later on. Try this to see how you can apply this...
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What is the one thing that seems to be the biggest fear, barrier or problem facing you right now—your boss, money, your family, boredom, etc.?
- Project yourself into the future (e.g. 1 week, 3 months, or 5 years) looking back on your problem you were faced with today.
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How does this problem appear to you from the future? What feelings come up when you imagine this problem from the future perspective?
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How does this situation appear if the situation was over or the problem solved? What feelings come up when you imagine it from this perspective?
Journal your insights or talk with a trusted friend or coach about your experiences.
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By Doreen Amatelli on
Sunday, January 25, 2009
What would you do if you won the lottery? Would you pay off your bills, take a trip, buy a car, share it with family or charity? Then what…maybe invest some of it? What would you do next? Think about it... what if you truly had no more money issues?
What would you do to fill up your time? It’s a nice dream, isn’t it? The freedom that we often associate with landing such a shot in the dark opportunity seems so enticing. What would you do with it… the freedom, I mean? According to various studies of past lottery winners many people end up going back to work, just to feel useful. What if these people felt a larger purpose for being, a mission or life passion? Then they could use that gift of freedom to conduct activities that were in line with their life passions or missions.
So, why wait for the lottery to live your passion or mission. Why not start shifting from doing inauthentic activities to more authentic ones. Authentic activities are those that are in closest alignment with your purpose for being. Inauthentic activities are out of alignment.
How do we shift from less authentic to more authentic activities in our careers without going broke? For those of us who are essential breadwinners in our households this doesn’t appear easy or possible to achieve. Have you ever tried it? Do you know anyone who has? You probably think I’m crazy for even suggesting it’s possible to earn a living doing more of what you love and less of what you don’t.
I’m here to say I’m living it, but I don’t for a second believe I am so different from anyone else. I truly believe it is due to the driving force behind my actions... my passion/mission. My actions are ways that I strive to express my mission in all aspects of my life. Yes, I do falter and come up against unforeseen challenges, but I ask myself how I can view them as breakthroughs to another level of attaining better clarity around my mission and perhaps new ways to express that mission.
I know that underneath the fears and doubts that come up from time to time, we are all here on this earth for a purpose. That nagging desire to discover and live your mission will keep you on course to live each day as if you had that winning lottery ticket!
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By Doreen Amatelli on
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
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By Doreen Amatelli on
Saturday, June 21, 2008
 What level of intensity do you want in your job? Is it more intense with increased learning experiences, more extensive travel, more responsibility - for situations like when you are young or when your spouse wants to stay home to raise children? Or do you want to "dial down" the intensity for slower career advancement, reduced salary, and restricted opportunities when raising small children or aging parents?
I just happened to pick up this book while waiting for my train the other day - Mass Career Customization written by two executive professionals Cathleen Benko and Anne Weisberg
It talks about how to think differently about talent in the workplace. The authors describe a new model and vision for career progression that will likely transform organizations
Take this interactive exercise to find out what your career path has looked like or how you would like it to look...
http://www.masscareercustomization.com/interactive.html
Share with others your results. Please post your comments by clicking the comments link for this blog.
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